AdvertisementHanson spoke to Slate about why she decided to take up the cause of protecting her fellow military spouses’—and everyone’s—access to smut. This interview has been condensed and edited for clarity.It was less than a week ago. Basically, my husband went back to his prior unit to close out on our other house. We’re still in the process of moving. But I’m now here in Louisiana permanently.
There are laws that allow military service members and their spouses not to have to switch our legal residency every time we move because that would be a financial burden, not to mention annoying. But it does mean I will never have a Louisiana license, so I literally can’t comply with the law even though I live here.We have been married about four-and-a-half years. We met when we were both on active duty and we were stationed in the same city. I’m a veteran now, and he’s still active.
I don’t know about anybody else, but at least for me, that intimacy is an integral part of the human experience. Just being able to connect with other human beings matters. It’s just important whether that’s sexual or not. That connection is just so important to well-being and mental health.It’s also hard sometimes when you’re separated from another person for long periods of time to not end up with this weird picture of them that you’ve built up in your head and to keep it real, basically.
It would make the times when we’re apart more difficult. We’d have to come up with more unique ways to fulfill that intimacy during the times he’s away. I wouldn’t give up trying to do that, but man, porn makes it a lot easier. It’s like a nice little shortcut. You’re both seeing and experiencing the same thing and you can talk about it, versus having to come up with something spontaneous on your own, especially after a long day at work when you’re brain-dead.