When I visit my three grandchildren on Fridays, my daughter-in-law never offers me any refreshment — not even a glass of water or a cup of tea. She will eat in front of me and not offer me anything. I was taught that this is rude. Should I bring my own refreshment?
I already travel quite far to get to her house — 45 minutes each way — and I bring snacks for the grandchildren. I visit them because it’s easier for my daughter-in-law to have me over than to haul the 1-, 3- and 6-year-olds out to my house. I would love to be invited to stay for dinner, but it never happens ahead of time. If I come at 2 p.m., then around 5 p.m. I “may” be invited, but I feel it is out of obligation, so I don’t stay.
Talk this over with your son. If your visits are regarded as an imposition, perhaps you should take the grands for an outing rather than watch their mother eat.My son has a best friend, “Earl”, he has hung out with since they were 14. Earl considers me his second mother because his real mother deserted him after he graduated from high school. He has never married or had kids. I’m 76, and Earl is 55.
When he calls, I know I sometimes become long-winded. I’m sure Earl gets tired of me going on and on about my stuff. But instead of telling me he needs to go, he quietly hangs up on me. I think it’s extremely rude. I wish he would justEarl never mentions it later, and we just go on as usual. I could tell him I’m never speaking to him again if he does it again, but I need him to help with those small tasks, so I don’t want to make him mad.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Your not number one anymore for your son the wife is his number one priority then his children then you the mother in law.
Because as a mother in law you don’t mind your own business and you don’t know how to let your son go and be a father and an independent man.
How does she treat her? does she try to rule the house, cause trouble between the daughter-in-law and her son the husband? Also, who expects to be asked to stay for dinner hours early, must people wait until dinner time to ask, and if she wants something to drink, Try asking.
And to mrs blabber mouth. Shut up already. Limit you diatribe to five minutes and then ask him a question about his life. You’re self centered and rude but at 76 you ain’t changing. So pipe down
Actually… get over yourself. Get off your ass and get your own drink. Your family not some beggar at the door. How about offering to cook the meal on Friday r bring something in? She dealing with three small children drama queen. Maybe she could use the help. Grow up!!
Don’t let her in Your house. Make her kiss your ring.
Sounds like you need to have discussion with your daughter in law rather then expecting your son to have it for you
Challenge her to a duel
Maybe she found out moms also shagging the handsome neighbour.
Spank her
Sounds like your son needs to have a discussion with his wife.
Grow a pair, and being nonjudgmental works too.
Change your perfume buy that new Leg off spray it works wonders
Wicked rude.