Two years ago, aged 35, I was diagnosed with cancer and required major surgery and six months of chemotherapy.
Your in-laws’ denial of events is something he sees a lot of in his work. “It’s usually when people haven’t confronted their own mortality that they can’t engage in conversations about dying and so pretend nothing’s happened. Maybe the thought of you being ill, possibly dying so young and leaving your child, might have been too much for them to process.”
Ross wondered how you’ve tried to talk to your in-laws about it, maybe in sensing their discomfort, you and your husband backed off quite quickly. As you want to move forward, you may have to try again, and go through the tension.