Should you leave? That is a valid question. The two of you need to sort through your life and talk about the future. What do you want? What does he want? What does he have to say for himself regarding this huge lie that he has been living? How can he make up to you for this betrayal? Listen to him, and trust your gut.
If you are done, have your lawyer begin the process to dissolve the marriage. Truth is, it may be simpler than that. If you aren’t legally married, you may be able to walk away. It really depends on what assets you share and where you live. Some states honor domestic partnerships. I have family members who are having babies left and right out of wedlock — some are even upset about getting pregnant again — while my husband and I have prepared a stable, loving home for kids and can’t get pregnant.The mysteries of conception and childbirth are real and can be devastating for couples who are unable to conceive and/or carry a child to term.